Trying not to fall in love?

DO YOU KEEP TRYING NOT TO FALL IN LOVE, AGAIN AND ALWAYS?

Everyone in this world, be it human or animal tend to respond to the unbound and indefinite language of love. We all need love, and no one questions against it. Yet at times of falling and elaborating the same love into commitment, even the great saints tend to loose their sanity.

Have we ever, but recently asked ourselves that;

Why the saints and monks who taught us all about love and harmony, did never really lived a life of commitment? Did never had a lovestory?

Or even that;

Why all the heroes of epic lovestories did loose their life, status and reminiscence even with the power of love?

And above all the tales and saints, from our childhood we have been taught of being in love, with love and for love. This thought when we grow up; eventually creates a bizarre as what really exists around in the world is practicality. And what is practicality, as in hidden sense of world?

'It is a process of rising above all, with an art of consuming everything and everyone surrounding us!'

So, here comes our greatest bizarre- love! Totally stranger in this theory of practicality within world of grown ups. Then arises, is our biggest challenge- the dilemma of falling or not falling in love?

To my personal experience with love, I found it late but rightly that; whatever relationship you establish in the name of love will some day prove to be a manifestation from theory of practicality. And wherever you turn around your head-to; the world will look the same- 'No great love-stories being successful and no success story being a tale of love!'

Well now, lets not assume it the end of world and me being pessimistic!!

We have solutions here, to this question of 'Falling in love or not?'

 The question that rose back from our childhood, has its solutions hidden right back there itself!!

The question 'Why do we need love?' is our hidden door, behind which lies all anwers.

So, have you ever thought that why do you need a man to love your beauty or a woman to love your duty? Why do you ever want to come back to home and need an awaiting partner, rather than just a cook, who keeps your hunger and kitchen updated?

Well, the answers are many. But seldom correct. 'We all need a person to love us, so as to make our worth being identified. We need an another person, much like us to make us feel needed and desirable. Be it a child or greatest-grandfather of house; everyone struggles to feel needed. And no, it is not atall a power struggle or proving ourselves superior. It's just simply a nature that persists; a desire to be worthy and useful within this great grand world.'

But then again, How can we just let go this desire?

The answer to this might be quite complicated, but has always been delivered by greatest preachers and monks. 'To let go off this desire of being needed in society, we need to transfer the responsibility of appreciation or depreciation from shoulders of others to the shoulders of our own.' 

This small but tough to-do solution has all the secrets of a saint's single and lover's unprecedented heroism. Only if, we tend to make our life better in this world of grown-ups under the theory of practicality; we must inculcate this revelation of letting off the desire as soon as, we get to know it.

Our lives have been a warzone since childhood, because we were told that love is essential but not about how to use this very essential tool. A thousand times have we heard of this simple message- to love yourself. But only if we were told that to love oneself we need to be everything for oneself; life would have been much simpler.

To fall in love and not to fall in love is and will always remain a situational phenomenon. But never to depend upon others for loving and survival is for sure into our own hands. In this ever advancing world, we face stories of unpromising relationships and painful outcomes from them. But to all the changes, the human tendency of falling and searching for love remains same. In those moments of old-school feelings hitting you hard, just remember this thing that;

 If you could have stayed happier alone then why would you need anyone else and, if you aren't content to your own then who else could ever join a heart, so resentful.