Trying not to fall in love?

DO YOU KEEP TRYING NOT TO FALL IN LOVE, AGAIN AND ALWAYS?

Everyone in this world, be it human or animal tend to respond to the unbound and indefinite language of love. We all need love, and no one questions against it. Yet at times of falling and elaborating the same love into commitment, even the great saints tend to loose their sanity.

Have we ever, but recently asked ourselves that;

Why the saints and monks who taught us all about love and harmony, did never really lived a life of commitment? Did never had a lovestory?

Or even that;

Why all the heroes of epic lovestories did loose their life, status and reminiscence even with the power of love?

And above all the tales and saints, from our childhood we have been taught of being in love, with love and for love. This thought when we grow up; eventually creates a bizarre as what really exists around in the world is practicality. And what is practicality, as in hidden sense of world?

'It is a process of rising above all, with an art of consuming everything and everyone surrounding us!'

So, here comes our greatest bizarre- love! Totally stranger in this theory of practicality within world of grown ups. Then arises, is our biggest challenge- the dilemma of falling or not falling in love?

To my personal experience with love, I found it late but rightly that; whatever relationship you establish in the name of love will some day prove to be a manifestation from theory of practicality. And wherever you turn around your head-to; the world will look the same- 'No great love-stories being successful and no success story being a tale of love!'

Well now, lets not assume it the end of world and me being pessimistic!!

We have solutions here, to this question of 'Falling in love or not?'

 The question that rose back from our childhood, has its solutions hidden right back there itself!!

The question 'Why do we need love?' is our hidden door, behind which lies all anwers.

So, have you ever thought that why do you need a man to love your beauty or a woman to love your duty? Why do you ever want to come back to home and need an awaiting partner, rather than just a cook, who keeps your hunger and kitchen updated?

Well, the answers are many. But seldom correct. 'We all need a person to love us, so as to make our worth being identified. We need an another person, much like us to make us feel needed and desirable. Be it a child or greatest-grandfather of house; everyone struggles to feel needed. And no, it is not atall a power struggle or proving ourselves superior. It's just simply a nature that persists; a desire to be worthy and useful within this great grand world.'

But then again, How can we just let go this desire?

The answer to this might be quite complicated, but has always been delivered by greatest preachers and monks. 'To let go off this desire of being needed in society, we need to transfer the responsibility of appreciation or depreciation from shoulders of others to the shoulders of our own.' 

This small but tough to-do solution has all the secrets of a saint's single and lover's unprecedented heroism. Only if, we tend to make our life better in this world of grown-ups under the theory of practicality; we must inculcate this revelation of letting off the desire as soon as, we get to know it.

Our lives have been a warzone since childhood, because we were told that love is essential but not about how to use this very essential tool. A thousand times have we heard of this simple message- to love yourself. But only if we were told that to love oneself we need to be everything for oneself; life would have been much simpler.

To fall in love and not to fall in love is and will always remain a situational phenomenon. But never to depend upon others for loving and survival is for sure into our own hands. In this ever advancing world, we face stories of unpromising relationships and painful outcomes from them. But to all the changes, the human tendency of falling and searching for love remains same. In those moments of old-school feelings hitting you hard, just remember this thing that;

 If you could have stayed happier alone then why would you need anyone else and, if you aren't content to your own then who else could ever join a heart, so resentful.

One-day trip to Mysore

Be it a long exhausting week of work in Bangalore, or just being traveler on a one-day halt stuck around streets of Karnataka. Here's a quick remedy to the short term ailment. MYSORE. Well, to be honest, you can take a whole life to absorb the demeanor of this land of sandal and magnificent monuments; but we are here with just a single day in hand. So, welcome people for this quick-trip.

THE TRANSPORT- To begin with planning the trip, look for what kind of vehicle you might like to travel with. Off-course a two-wheeler will prove out to be the worst, if you look forward for sight-seeing. You are left with few options of looking for a travel or booking agency and if, you are staying in a hotel, ask the manager (or reception) to get you a booking.

A very important thing about drivers there is, they drive too fast; and are very loyal. So, either you book vehicle from a travel agency or other; you need to make your "must-go-spots list" handy. Even if your travel head tells that, they'll handle all; do-not let them take command and ask them for sites, cross-checking it from below.

I. GUMBAZ-

On your way from Bangalore to Mysore, Gumbaz will be the first to fall. Made up of white marbles, Gumbaz is beautiful inside and peaceful outside; mausoleum (tomb) of Tipu Sultan and his father Hyder Ali. Surrounded by landscape style of garden. It will take just around fifteen to twenty minutes to cover this monument plus, giving you a pump fresh start.

II. St. PHILOMENA'S CHURCH-

First one to fall as you enter Mysore. Crafted in Gothic style, as of all churches. This stands magnificently tall in its distinct grey color against the blue of sky. If you are a lover of photography; go for its scenic view. Inside of the church has chronologically assembled paintings on life of Jesus Christ and below in the basement is relic of the virgin St. Philonema. It is one of Asia's tallest church and some of the female sculptures found here are in sarees; a symbol of secularism.

Do not spend more than thirty minutes. Outside the church, you might be suggested by your travel guide or driver to get Mysore-special sandal and silk stuffs; please do avoid it as much as possible. It will be a big time and money killer.

III. MYSORE PALACE-

Officially known as Amba-vilas palace. The palace itself is huge along with vast campus. It would take you four to five hours,if the time of year is Dusshera and if it's an off season visit then, palace might take you two to three complete hours, from entrance to clicking pictures to getting awestruck at every next step. Studded with gems and bordered with golden work; Mysore palace is an unparallel show of Indian, Islamic, Persian and European architectural art piece.

Of all the day long trip, make sure to save enough time for Mysore palace and our last spot(further).

IV. CHAMUNDESHWARI TEMPLE-

If you are lucky enough to reach here before four o'clock, then you will get an escape from long temple queue and crowd around. You must also STAY ALERT OF MONKEY(langoor) along the way to the temple and in every open place inside premises. The Dravidian style of temple garlanded by grand 'vimana' that is 'top of temple' and a statue of demon Mahishasura outside at the entrance. Mahishasura was historically a mythical king of Mysore, from where the name of city is derived.

HILL TOP VIEW- As the temple is situated on top of Chamundi hills, you'll notice a number of points from where whole city is visible. It'll take you five minutes, so tell your driver to pull around those points while returning. Please, DO NOT MISS IT.

V. BRINDAVAN GARDENS-

It will take you one hour approximately to travel from Chamundi hills to Brindavan gardens. Lush Street food will be right all along your path from parking place till garden. It's a bingo! if you are a sea food lover. Vegetarians will catch delicious fruit salad around the path. Inside of garden is endless, if you are in love with flowers and gardening. You can simply sit and ease yourself here because it will be your last sight for one day trip. Make sure to reach here before six o'clock to enjoy the photogenic view. Apart from foot-bridge, you can enjoy boating at a very cheap rate, to cross the KCR Dam's water; while entering the garden.

MUSICAL FOUNTAIN- The show starts around six thirty onward till eight o'clock. You might have had seen many other musical fountain shows across the globe, but do not try to miss this. The south-Indian music and energy of crowd will leave you to tranquility. Off-course, it will be the best way to close your exhausting but exciting one-day trip.

So, here we are at the end of our one-day Mysore trip. Yet; sometimes to know a place or person completely, one whole life seems shorter and that is so right with us here. There are some or many sights left behind, where we might have had covered in a two-day trip to Mysore. Here, let's honor them too-

1. NANDESHWAR TEMPLE, NANDI HILLS-

Will take half of your day to cover this splendid place. The temple, on one hand represents an unbeatable example of sculpturing art, the beautiful hill top view, on the other will give you a life long experience to sun-rise or sunset (whichever time you select to visit). Usually, it is not possible to catch sun-rise when you have planned to travel from far a place. Try to plan of going to the sight around afternoon to catch sunset on time.

2. SUMMER FORT OF TIPU SULTAN-

This will lye first on your way from Bangalore, if you have decided to move towards the direction of Nandi hills. The palace, as the name suggests, was residence of Sultan-Tipu only for summer season. Architectural work is an example of Indo-Islamic style, decorated with achievements of the great sultan and enchanting looks. The palace was actually incorporated into Bangalore palace during reign of Hyder Ali (Sultan-Tipu's father). Lawns and gardens, are still decorated and maintained at par. The indoor balconies are my favorite here!

3. SHIVASAMUDRA FALLS-

It's a gift from nature! This fall cuts river Kaveri in two halves, where the waterfall is itself segmented and forms an elegant panoramic view. For a one day trip, this is a place you must visit in the morning, since serene weather will bless you with fresh morning while the ride. Don't forget to keep your car- windows down, to not skip any of the several jaw-dropping scenes.

4. RANGANATHASWAMY TEMPLE-

Another beautifully crafted Dravidian styled temple of sleeping-postured Lord Vishnu. It looks bright and delightful as you stand outside it. Though inside is a bit of damp and dark. You might also face a long queue of worshipers inside. Take a note,that cameras and clicking pictures from mobile phones are prohibited. If you have interest in archeological studies over temples and monuments, it will serve you great.

The sculptures are carved on black granite and inside is made up of yellow sand stone. There are several rooms (garbhgrihas) for many other Gods and 

Goddesses around the path of worshiper's queue.

Ta-da!!! Here we are again, with the bonus sights around and within Mysore. It might become an alternate must-go list, if you already have been to our above first list or also if you are looking for more of lone and into-the-nature space than all the magnificent-monuments around world. Additional to this, do-not forget to carry your first-aid kit, emergency medicine kit and a safety knife!!

Have a happy and safe trip everyone.